Michelle Huang
(English translation of Angela Lee's post)
I've known about my Big Sister's cancer for the past 20 years or so. During this time, I have always looked up to her with awe and admiration. Due to my job, I have encountered many cancer patients, but Big Sister is the only one I have known who has been able to continue embracing life so fully. Not only did she shine brightly herself, she brought light and warmth to others as well.
Big Sister has always been full of life, optimism, and determination. At the same time, she has always found the time and energy to care for others as well. Even in childhood, I remember being excited for her to go on dates, because I knew she would never forget to return with my favourite treat - a rice cake. .
Because of our age difference, by the time I reached my teens, Big Sister had already immigrated to the US. Throughout this time, I would periodically receive news of her. In 1996, I also immigrated with my family to North America, and lived in NYC for 6 months. The day before we left for Canada, Big Sister hurriedly delivered a box of homemade cookies, because she was worried that - especially with two young children in tow - we would be in too much of a hurry to eat properly. She wanted to ensure that we were at least well-fed. In acts of love such as this, it was clear how much she cared for me. Even today, every time I make these cookies at home, I always feel her warmth and love.
After we immigrated to Canada, whenever I had problems in my friendships or marriage, Big Sister would always impart her wisdom and draw on her own personal experiences to guide me. Furthermore, when my own two daughters visited NYC multiple times in the past few years, Big Sister always made sure to take them around and ensure they had a good time. My daughters always returned saying that Aunt Sue was "so sweet". Big Sister not only took care of me, she also took care of my next generation.
Nothing could have prepared me for her passing. While I knew it was coming, I was still overwhelmed with grief and sorrow when I received the news. But to know that Big Sister is at peace and is in a place with no tears, no pain, no death and dying - this brings me some peace and happiness for her.
Big Sister - this is just a temporary goodbye, not a permanent farewell.
Until we meet again.
Your Little Sister