Celebrating Alex

This tribute site is for you to view and add messages and memories, to learn more about Alex's life and passions, and to find out how you can donate to the causes so important to Alex and help change our world. Please contribute your thoughts, memories and images and check back often. Deanna and her family will cherish every item you post. If you'd like to write to Deanna directly: deannajlee2@gmail.com



Alex Emma Lee

"I’m super vibrant—think neon colors."


  1. Celebration on March 22, 2016: Program and four videos 
  2. Five awesome charities you can donate to
  3. A message from Doctor Who's Matt Smith
  4. A message from Pete Wentz of Fall Out Boy
  5. A playlist of some of Alex's favorite songs, by best friend Skye.

Alex Lee, beloved child of Deanna Lee, passed away March 8, 2016, survived by family and friends who are immeasurably grateful for the outpouring of love and support we have received. Below you'll find five charities that reflect the causes that that Alex supported as he tried to change the world. Please donate if you can. 

Program of NYC Celebration, March 22, 2016

4 videos from Facebook Live of #CelebratingAlex, March 22, 2016

Part 1

Sree Sreenivasan | Facebook

Part 2 

Sree Sreenivasan | Facebook

Part 3

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Part 4

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How to Make Donations in Alex’s Memory

Ali Forney Center

Ali Forney Center’s mission is to provide LGBTQ young people housing and a continuum of supportive services to help them thrive and prepare them for independent living. They are committed to saving the lives of LGBTQ youth, assisting nearly 1,400 youth per year through 10 housing sites and a multi-purpose Drop-In Center. AFC has been heralded for their full continuum of care approach to services for LGBTQ homeless youth.

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Animal Rescue Fund

ARF actively rescues cats and dogs, provides quality care, and offers sanctuary until loving homes can be found. ARF’s work with animals is guided by three core values: compassion, integrity, and dedication. They rescue a number of pugs from puppy mills. ARF’s next pug rescue will be named Alex in honor of Alex Emma Lee.

Checks can be mailed to: ARF, P.O. Box 901, Wainscott, NY 11975. Please indicate that the gift is In Memory of Alex Emma Lee. Or call Jean at 631.537.0400 x219 with credit card information.

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Citymeals on Wheels

Citymeals is one of the largest meals-on-wheels programs in the U.S., providing 2 million meals to 18,000 elderly New Yorkers each year. In addition to nutritionally balanced senior meals, the devoted staff and volunteers also deliver vital human companionship. As a frequent volunteer, Alex Emma Lee had a wonderful affinity for Citymeals.

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Girl Be Heard

Girl Be Heard is a nonprofit theatre company that brings global issues affecting teens center stage by empowering young women to tell their stories. The organization envisions a world in which every girl is valued and encouraged to be a leader and change maker.  Emma Alex Lee was an active member of this community, participating in their many programs, which inspiring and supportive throughout the last few years.

GBH Donation Information:

1. Website, girlbeheard.org

2. Mail: checks can be mailed to Girl Be Heard, Att: Alex Lee Fund, 20 Jay Street, Suite 210b, DUMBO, Brooklyn, NY 11201

3. Phone: Call Jen at 718-222-4475 with credit card info

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Tyler Clementi Foundation

The Tyler Clementi Foundation is focused on creating a new story of inclusion, dignity, and acceptance for youth and their families. The Tyler Clementi Foundation was born out of the urgent need to address vulnerable populations, especially LGBT young people and other victims of hostile social environments. The Tyler Clementi Foundation works to end online and offline bullying in schools, workplaces, and faith communities. Their theory of change is that progress can be made through education, advocacy, and research.

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Hey, Doctor Who fans! A message has arrived through a tear in the fabric of time and space--for (and from?) Alex--from everyone's favorite Time Lord, MATT SMITH... 


A word from PETE WENTZ, bassist and principal lyricist of Fall Out Boy, Alex's favorite band (in video #3 above, you will see a clip of Alex and Skye performing "Young Volcanoes." Note the quote in the slide below, something Alex used to say: "Pete and I make up one member of Fall Out Boy."


Alex Emma Caraballo Lee
Tanya Coke
Dear Deanna,

I am the aunt of Alessa, one of Alex's classmates. Alessa and Alex roomed next to one another in the same dorm. Our hearts go out to you. Two and a half years ago, Alessa's mother -- my beloved sister -- disappeared one night and did not return home. For five days we mobilized a massive search involving police, FBI, the news media and many dedicated volunteers, similar to the search organized for your Alex. Our search, like yours, ended with tragic news. Our family knows something of your pain. We know the road to recovery is long, and there will always be a hole in your heart, missing your vibrant, beautiful, brave child. I pray that you will find solace in friends and family during this painful time. My advice to you -- one that I wish I had learned earlier -- is to accept help for the small and large things needing doing that may otherwise get in the way of your grieving. When someone asks what they can do, think about what they are good at. Allow them to do that something that aligns with their talents and makes your life a little bit easier. Find a mental health professional who specializes in trauma and bereavement. Never doubt that Alex was loved, and that she loved you. And if you ever would like to talk with someone who has walked some of the same thorny road, please do not hesitate to contact me at coketanya@gmail.com; 973 449-0026.

With our deep condolences

Tanya Coke Kendall & Family
wendy springer
Dear Deanna,

I'm Alessa's godmother, and I want you to know you're in my thoughts and prayers. As a mother, my heart goes out to you, and I will always remember the beautiful young person Alex was.

Wendy Springer
Diana Rubio
Deanna, you are in my prayers. Just seeing Alex's picture made me smile. Thank you for sharing her memory.
Alex Emma Caraballo Lee