LifeStory

Sue Liu

By BB LIU and RAY LIU

Sue Liu (Shufang Li | 李淑芳) passed peacefully at age 69 on June 24, 2021, at home in New York City. By her side were her daughter BB Liu, her son Ray Liu, and her significant other Benjamin Bauer. She is also survived by her grandson Aidan Liu, as well as close relatives in Taiwan and Canada.

Born in 1952 in Taipei, Taiwan, Sue was the eldest of five siblings and the first in her family to go to college. She graduated from Taipei First Girls School (北一女) and National Taiwan University (臺大). 

Sue held many roles throughout her life and instilled a sense of persistence and dedication to all of her endeavors. When she first immigrated to the United States, she worked as a waitress and seamstress to support her young family. As single mother raising her two children in New York City, she served as computer programmer for various international banks. In her later age, she was a property owner and real estate investor, as well as Chinese language tutor. Her favorite job, however, was that of grandmother to Aidan, who was born in May 2016.

Always the aesthete, Sue admired the art and beauty in all its forms. She decorated her home with original artwork; she frequented museums throughout the world; and she took care to look her best by creatively combining clothes, shoes, jewelry, and scarves. Sue was also the Treasurer of the Garden Club of New Rochelle, and would beam with pride when people would compliment and take photos of the flower garden in the front yard of her Westchester home. 

A literature major in college, Sue loved to describe the world around her and was a passionate and prolific writer. On her hospice bed, with the help of friends from California, she published a collection of essays about her life and single motherhood.

Sue believed deeply in serving others, contributing to many causes and maintaining strong ties to her community in Queens. She volunteered for the Garden of Hope nonprofit, translated articles for the Chinese Christian Herald Crusades, mentored young teachers, and was an active member of the Rockland Chinese Alliance Church (磐石华人宣道会). Sue stayed closely involved with the breast cancer support community, the alternative medicine world, and Flushing, New York, where she always returned to dine with her friends and fellow writers, buy Asian groceries, run errands, and get her hair done.

Sue always sought out new experiences and found joy in all aspects of life. She immersed herself in all of the the restaurants and shows New York had to offer and would travel extensively with family and friends.

Throughout her life and especially in her last decades, Sue cherished the times spent with family. She loved browsing estate sales with her significant other Ben, cooking for her children and grandchild, and engaging in holiday and seasonal activities with friends and loved ones.


She will be greatly missed by her loving family and friends, who will always hold her close to their hearts.

Sue’s family has requested no flowers or wreaths. Instead, please consider making a donation in Sue’s name to the Garden of Hope, an organization that dedicates itself to helping victims of domestic violence, with specific focus on the growing Chinese communities in the NYC region (https://gohny.org/give/).

A 12-minute slideshow including hundreds of her favorite photos, selected by Sue herself during her hospice stay, can be found here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Be-YQgEiLGw.

We would also be grateful if friends and family can share any remembrances (stories, photos or videos) below.

Sue Liu
Memorial
  • born

    1952

  • died

    2021

Michelle Huang
(English translation of Angela Lee's post)

I've known about my Big Sister's cancer for the past 20 years or so. During this time, I have always looked up to her with awe and admiration. Due to my job, I have encountered many cancer patients, but Big Sister is the only one I have known who has been able to continue embracing life so fully. Not only did she shine brightly herself, she brought light and warmth to others as well.

Big Sister has always been full of life, optimism, and determination. At the same time, she has always found the time and energy to care for others as well. Even in childhood, I remember being excited for her to go on dates, because I knew she would never forget to return with my favourite treat - a rice cake. .

Because of our age difference, by the time I reached my teens, Big Sister had already immigrated to the US. Throughout this time, I would periodically receive news of her. In 1996, I also immigrated with my family to North America, and lived in NYC for 6 months. The day before we left for Canada, Big Sister hurriedly delivered a box of homemade cookies, because she was worried that - especially with two young children in tow - we would be in too much of a hurry to eat properly. She wanted to ensure that we were at least well-fed. In acts of love such as this, it was clear how much she cared for me. Even today, every time I make these cookies at home, I always feel her warmth and love.

After we immigrated to Canada, whenever I had problems in my friendships or marriage, Big Sister would always impart her wisdom and draw on her own personal experiences to guide me. Furthermore, when my own two daughters visited NYC multiple times in the past few years, Big Sister always made sure to take them around and ensure they had a good time. My daughters always returned saying that Aunt Sue was "so sweet". Big Sister not only took care of me, she also took care of my next generation.

Nothing could have prepared me for her passing. While I knew it was coming, I was still overwhelmed with grief and sorrow when I received the news. But to know that Big Sister is at peace and is in a place with no tears, no pain, no death and dying - this brings me some peace and happiness for her.

Big Sister - this is just a temporary goodbye, not a permanent farewell.

Until we meet again.

Your Little Sister
Wilf Wright
I heard your voice in the wind today
and I turned to see your face;
The warmth of the wind caressed me
as I stood silently in place.

I felt your touch in the sun today
as its warmth filled the sky;
I closed my eyes for your embrace
and my spirit soared high.

I saw your eyes in the window pane
as I watched the falling rain;
It seemed as each raindrop fell
it quietly said your name.

I held you close in my heart today
it made me feel complete;
You may have died...but you are not gone
you will always be a part of me.

As long as the sun shines...
the wind blows...
the rain falls...
You will live on inside of me forever
for that is all my heart knows.
McSwain Lauren
I will always appreciate how Sue welcomed me into the fold of the Liu family after I became close friends with BB. I had the great fortune to share holiday meals, travel, and warm memories with Sue - I was even the recipient of her straightforward, unsugarcoated advice, delivered with love. As a matriarch, Sue was a guiding force for the BB, Ray and Aidan, and I know she will be dearly missed. I will also miss Sue's good cheer, her sense of humor, and her warm and caring nature.
Thao Nguyen- Timothy and Thomas Pham mom
Thank you Sue for your faith and encouraging BB to apply to Grace! So thankful to have met BB and Aidan. May your legacy live on through your children and grandchildren. Peace be with you.
Jian Fang
專題: 復活節 年年不同
國語錄音:Sue Liu

http://old.cchc-herald.org/us/?page_id=36370
Jian Fang
角聲情:文字部做校對的快樂
李淑芳

http://old.cchc-herald.org/us/?page_id=46671
Sue Liu
Memorial
  • born

    1952

  • died

    2021